Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Thinking.... Perhaps too much?

Why are young people (okay, older people too for that matter) so surprised when a young person responds to a "are you dating" question with, "No, I don't think I'm ready for that kind of relationship," with not only raised brows, but also the skeptical question of "are you lesbian?"

No, quite frankly, I'm not. I have no intentions of ever being so, either.

The root of my lack of a dating life is due to my Religious fanaticism.

When I was around ten or eleven years old, my older sister introduced me to a magazine called Brio, where they talked about purity, waiting for your future husband on the emotional and psychological level, and staying pure physically as well.
My friends, I was convicted. It seemed like a perfectly romantic story-line: Wait for my Future Husband (whoever he may be), staying perfectly content, and pure. A damsel, a Princess, if you will, awaiting her Prince Charming (although I dearly hope he has much more back bone and courage than any Disney Prince - yuck! And please, no dandies like Rapunzel's prince! I mean, seriously, he could of at least tried talking with the witch before going behind her back and bringing half-ruination to every one!!!!).
Sound romantic, huh?
Well it does to a ten year old... and thirteen year old... and sixteen year old...

As you hit young-adulthood, the whole "no more dating, just waiting," life style becomes much more strenuous. One absolutely must become intentionally proactive about remaining single and pure (of heart, mind and body) and cannot any longer go along remaining databley single any longer.

Okay, so this whole train of thought is probably a huge stretch of randomness for most of... okay all y'all!!
But it's all quite relative to my life right now, since one of the woman I work with joyfully informed me that there are "lookers" who have "noticed" me at work... After she stated all this (with an ear-to-ear-grin) she triumphantly stated "Isn't that exciting!!!" So, being the totally-not-overt-rather shy-introverted-"my dream super-hero-power-is disappearing" person that I am, my totally beat-red face said it all as I nodded dumbfoundedly.
Please bear in mind that a short conversation-like interaction took place between this woman and I previous this statement... And in all honesty, I wanted to yell after this person, "that's not quite the word I was looking for... terrifying might better explain my feelings right now! Not-ready! I'm just a baby! Too young..." Really, and honestly, anything besides "exciting," would have probably summed up the wave of emotions that overtook me... excitement was not one of them!

Sist'a, I am so just a baby!!!
Maybe Maria Von Trapp thought that "waiting a year, or two" (being eighteen or nineteen) was kind'a, sort'a around the time that one is ready to step out and begin the journey of seeking a spouse...
Ehem, excuse me, I totally beg to differ in this opinion! At least for me... No, I'm not at all ready for this kind of addition to my life... Or maybe it's just because life is... well... life? Hectic, crazy, unsettled, in-between, in-transition? Either way, I'm totally not ready for a romantic relationship, of any kind, really.
Mom and I were talking, and she was saying how dad felt the same when they were engaged even. We were laughing hysterically as I pointed out that he would have probably felt that way if they had waited until their forties to marry ( ;-D) And it struck me... Dang... I'm so my fathers daughter! Which may not be a bad thing after all... but, we aren't at the "after all" part of the story, so I wouldn't know!
I'm sorry, I really do think I'm beginning to babble. This happens when the clock strikes "Quarter of nine, and all 's well!"
God richly bless and keep y'all this week!
May you enjoy the rich and abundant blessings He holds for you,
and enjoy all the beauties of Spring/ Summer!!
Miss Elisabeth


Anonymous said...

Haha... LOVED this.
Next time someone asks you why you don't have a boyfriend, simply say, 'I only need one, and I don't need him now!'
Go and sleep and so shall I. :) (But I take it that it is morning your side now.)

Miss. Elisabeth said...

OOh, I LIKE that line!!! Salome, I am so totally going to use that next time *laughs*
It is actually near dusk, now.

a la Modest said...

Hi Elisabeth!

Thank you for the reply on my comment on Feelin' Feminine. I responded to that :)

You must read my latest entry with Rebecca St. James because I talked about dating a little bit. I, too, was a reader of Brio in my teenage years. I am not that old.. I'm 22 (turning 23 this weekend)! I totally understand your "babbles". I've always wanted my first and only boyfriend to be my husband, and I achieved it, with God's help! I am now happily married to my first and only boyfriend I ever had. He used to read the guy version of Brio (Breakaway)! What a coincidence. We also both read I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Josh Harris before we knew each other. Another hit! God works so miraculously-- even in our love lives! I have a lot to tell about my journey in this area. I didn't date until I was in the age where I wanted to be married soon. Let me know if you want to chat! I am open to all my readers.

PS- Nice set of Jeremy Camp songs!

Miss. Elisabeth said...

A La Modest,
*sniffle, sniffle sniffle*
Honestly, it is so incredibly awesome to hear that! There have been times when I've questioned my sanity *lol*
How wonderfully sweet! And yes, I would absolutely love to chat :)

Miss. Elisabeth said...

I can't seem to find the Feelin Feminine article now :(

Anonymous said...

Haha... ok, whatever the time is. :) I have NO idea. :)

Ooooh, if I could use A La Modest's story for my book... *hint, hint*... maybe you could persuade her for me? lol
Just a suggestion.
Looking forward to hearing from you dear. :)

Miss. Elisabeth said...

ROTFLOL! I will ask her if she would be willing for write for you :)
A La Modest has a beautiful web site and I enjoy reading it- the article about Rebecca St. James was especially interesting, as she was my "hero" when I was a pre-teen :)

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